Parent Effectiveness Training gives advice which boils down to:
- Listen, truly listen to what the child is saying
- Treat children as equals, just as if they are your age/your friends, in the end they develop very nuanced emotional intelligence as early as half year olds
- Stop and listen to youself, whatever your good intentions, how might the child interpret what you are saying
- Be authentic and share your thoughts, ideas, worries and problems. You are a parent, a human being, not a perfect god
- Engage!
- Problem ownership: who owns the problem should deal with it, the other can only help by listening
- If there is a values conflict, express your needs then ask for potential solutions, give the child a chance to care and consider